I know this might be a tough weekend for some, and the first thing I want to say is that I hear ya and I’m sorry and if I could hug you, I would.
For the weeks leading up to Mother’s Day, I’ve felt pretty OK about the holiday coming up. I chose to roll my eyes at the Hallmark commercials instead of getting choked up. And it was working, I think.
But today it’s a bit much. Every store in my neighborhood is selling flowers, plants, greeting cards, brunch specials, mani-pedi’s for two… I could go on. I went out this afternoon to run an errand and practically ran back home. I don’t think I’ll venture back out there. I have plenty of papers to grade, and renting a movie tonight sounds pretty good anyway.
Tomorrow I’ll get together with my dad and his girlfriend Susan and a bunch of her relatives. This has been our tradition the past few years, and despite it being a hard day, I’m looking forward to it. I like having something to do on these holidays, and I like spending it with Susan. She is a mom-like figure to me, and we’ve had a lot of fun lately on little shopping sprees or chit-chats on the phone. She makes a special effort to make sure I’m busy on Mother’s Day and invite me to whatever they’re doing, and that means a lot to me.
So, what should you do this weekend and tomorrow? I don’t know if I have a golden rule for you. I would say to do what you feel comfortable doing. If you feel like staying home in your PJs and watching old movies, enjoy your solitude. If you feel like seeing family or friends, take comfort in their company. If you want to visit a cemetery or donate to a charity, go for it.
To me, it’s always been important to take time to be sad (I will go for a run tomorrow morning, and there will probably be tears) and take time to be happy (I will see my Dad and Susan and instantly laugh at their Seinfeld-like bickering, and later I’ll get to play with Susan’s cute grandkids).
I’ll be thinking of you. And in that way, none of us will be alone tomorrow.